Gay man and straight woman marriage
The Gay Man in the Straight Marriage
Rob rushed into his first session with me, gym bag on one shoulder, briefcase on the other, 10 minutes late and out of breath. He position his bags down, gently put his Blackberry on the table in front of him, and heaved himself onto the couch. He sighed and began: “Okay, I’m gay, I’m married, I have three kids, and I’m not getting divorced.” He’d distributed some of this facts with me in our phone conversation, but I was still struck by the sense of hopelessness in his tone. As he paused, awaiting my response, quite honestly, I was awaiting my response as well. I knew this was not Rob’s first experience in therapy and that a lot was riding on what I was about to say.
Rob had been referred by a former client of mine he’d met in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Just out of alcohol rehabilitation treatment, he’d begun attending AA meetings, where he’d shared parts of his story. He described a long fight with his sexual orientation, growing up in a devoutly Roman Catholic family, where he learned that his sexual attraction to men was cause for eternal dam
I’m a Straight Female Who Married a Gay Man
To fetch advice from Prudie, submit your questions anonymously here. (Questions may be lightly edited for publication.) Join the survive chat every Monday at noon (and submit your comments) here, or notify the Dear Prudence podcast voicemail at 401-371-3327 to overhear your question answered on a future episode of the show.
Dear Prudence,
I met my husband 13 years ago, and we’ve been together ever since. We fell deeply, madly in love with each other and have been married for nine superb years now. He’s patient, kind, gentle-hearted. He’s also always been honest about being gay and has never disguised it from me. Only one of our mutual friends knows this about my husband. Our son also knows, since we idea it would be best to last open with him about it, so he never “found out” by surprise or from our mutual friend. Our son took the news very skillfully and doesn’t nurture that his father was gay.
I’ve never told my family, or really any of my friends, as I believe they’d all be judgmental. My siblings don’t like my husband, but that’s a different letter in itself. So I’ve always kept it bottled up inside. He’s been married before, and div
A gay man and a straight chick got married. They say it's not a 'lavender marriage' but founded on 'true pure love.'
Growing up gay and without examples of successful marriages in his family, Jacob Hoff didn't contemplate he'd ever acquire married — grant alone to a woman.
But in November last year, Hoff, 31, married his longtime girlfriend, Samantha Wynn Greenstone, 37.
When Business Insider spoke to the LA-based couple in 2023, they explained that they were in a "mixed-orientation" affair , meaning that they have different sexual orientations. Hoff is a gay bloke, and Greenstone is a straight woman.
The two musical theatre performers started off as best friends, but started internet dating in 2017 when Greenstone admitted that she had intimate feelings for Hoff and he realized he felt the same way.
They've now been together for eight years in a monogamous connection, and decided to tie the knot last year.
BI caught up with them to ask about their wedding, future plans, and whether the way others see them has changed.
Hoff and Greenstone put their control 'campy' stamp on wedding traditions
After so long together, getting married seemed enjoy the natural next s
To read the wife's take on this story, click here.
Like most couples, my wife and I, full of hope and commit , walked down the aisle of the church where we married. We were both dedicated, Evangelical Christians. I was in the ministry at the time. We were young, in love, and believed that, with God on our side, the whole planet had been laid out before us.
But I was gay.
People frequently ask if my wife knew I was gay when she married me. The answer is a bit more complicated than a simple yes or no. I had gone through an ex-gay ministry, the most renowned one in the country in fact, and was working for them when we got married. My wife and I believed I had been "healed" of my homosexuality, or was at least in the process of being healed. Our faith taught us to trust, pray and believe that God could undertake miraculous things.
It wasn't too drawn-out into the marriage before we both began to sense something was wrong. There was an invisible wall that separated us emotionally. I wanted to consider it wasn't there and denied it vehemently when she brought it up. We prayed harder. I had sufficiently suppressed my sexuality in the years principal up to the marriage. I believed my lack of sexual